Monday, November 21, 2016

The Push-Pull of Independence and Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!
As your students return home here are a few things to consider:

The Push-Pull of Independence

During the transition to college, your relationship with your child isn’t merely likely to change, it’s certain to change. New and evolving boundaries and major shifts in responsibilities may feel unfamiliar. For students, increased personal freedom seems at the same time wonderful and frightening — as they seek to find balance between their own growing need for self-reliance and their desire for the comforting emotional presence of a parent.
College students are navigators in the difficult waters that separate adolescence from adulthood. As they take more responsibility for their daily lives and develop life skills that are as vital as any academic coursework, it’s important to remain a reliable source of support.

Helicopter Parenting

Fast Fact

College-age children still think of their parents as a primary source of support when times get tough. AnmtvU-Jed Foundation studyshowed 63 percent of students would turn to their parents if they found themselves in emotional distress.
You’re a caring parent who’s involved in your child’s life. Over the years, you researched and sought out the best programs, the most enriching opportunities, and always got your child where she needed to be, fully prepared and on time. You knew what homework assignments had to be done, when they were due, and made sure everything happened in a wisely prioritized and timely fashion. You regularly reviewed (and sometimes helped with) assignments. Perhaps you’ve also intervened on behalf of your child, with teachers, friends or other adults. You did so because you care.
Yet experts agree, when parents cross the line from caring to hovering, they inadvertently stifle their child’s coping capacities. Fortunately, it’s not too late to get your child on the path to practical and emotional independence. How? When you talk, allow your son or daughter to set the agenda for some of your conversations. Work on techniques to give your child the space to build his own resiliency and decision-making skills.
Sources used in this article: MTVu AP College Stress and Mental Health Poll

Monday, November 14, 2016

Four Things Every Parent Must Know About Emotional Health

Hello Parents!
Preparing to see your student again at Thanksgiving?
Here are Four Things Every Parent Must Know About Emotional Health
1.  It Affects You
2.  The Sooner, The Better
3.  The Stakes are High
4.  You Can Help

1) It Affects You
Most of us assume that our children — as they move into the excitement and opportunity of their college years — are emotionally healthy and thriving.  It’s easy to think of illnesses such as depression, addiction or even suicide as problems that affect other families… not our own. In reality, studies show that emotional issues, from stress and anxiety to conditions like depression and eating disorders, are a leading impediment to academic success among college students today.
In a study commissioned for this project, most parents stated that any teenager can develop a mental health problem.  But nearly two-thirds of these parents didn’t think their child was likely to experience one.
Then who will?
It’s very likely that all college-age students will deal with emotional health issues in some way, whether themselves or with a friend.  Take time to better understand the emotional pitfalls college students can face — and the role you can play in protecting your child’s emotional health.  This is vital for every parent and family.
2.  The Sooner, The Better
When young people are struggling emotionally, it can be tough to differentiate between those who need better coping skills or a stronger support network, and those who may be dealing with a larger mental health issue.  Either way, it’s prudent to reach for help at the first signs of trouble so that communication, lifestyle changes and, if necessary, treatment can begin before a student is in distress.  If you are concerned about your child or another young person, talk to them, and seek help before the situation worsens.
3.  The Stakes are High
For many students, emotional problems mean missing out on academic and social opportunities.  For others, the stakes are much higher.  Unaddressed mental health issues can lead to substance abuse and other dangerous behaviors; even suicide.  Suicide is the second leading cause of death among college students.  If you are concerned about a young person in your life, don’t put off addressing the issue — there’s far too much at risk.
4.  You Can Help
Talking about issues like mental health and suicide can be tough.  Studies show most parents are less comfortable talking with children about mental health than about other health topics.  But you have the power to make a profound difference in your child’s life by starting a dialogue today.  Remember, illnesses like depression, ADHD, bipolar disorder and anxiety disorders are real, treatable medical conditions.  Helping someone address a problem and seek help is the first step to ensuring they survive and thrive.

Monday, October 31, 2016

Careers 201 - For parents of second-year students

Careers 201 – For parents of second-year students

Generally, during the second year of college, a student begins to explore majors and career options more seriously.  At The College of St. Scholastica there are a broad range of subjects and activities offered to promote this exploration.

What you can do to help

·         Don’t insist upon a decision about a major or possible career choice immediately.  If you sense that your child’s indecision is a barrier to positive progress, urge that he or she look for assistance in Career Services.  Career Counselors have various resources and assessments to assist in career exploration.  Students often have difficulty making a “final” choice because they fear they may make a wrong choice and close off other options.
  •     Suggest that your son or daughter talk with faculty and Career Counselors about potential choices
  •      Encourage your son or daughter to take a interest assessment with through Career Services
  •     Encourage your son or daughter to view videos on about different jobs and career paths
  •      Direct your child to family, friends, or colleagues who are in fields in which he or she has an interest.  “Informational interviewing” with people can be extremely helpful at this stage.  Career Services website has information on informational interviews or Career Counselors can also be of help in setting one up.
  •     It is not too late to particpate in Sophomore COR Leadership training.  November topic, "Difficult Confrontation in Relationships (Nov. 6th 4-5:30 in BWC 249).  By attending the 5 monthly workshop series, they receive the COR Leadership Certificate for their resume.
    More information at

Adapted for The College of St. Scholastica with courtesy of the National Association of Colleges and Employers.

Monday, October 24, 2016

Delve a little deeper

Delve a little deeper at this point in the college transition it may be time to delve a little deeper. Ask follow-up questions when you communicate instead of just leaving it at, “I’m fi ne.” Many students feel they need to handle it all on their own and may take a bit of time to share what’s going on. While you want to give them space, sometimes a little open mindedness and curiosity can help foster communication.
Listen to the podcast below for steps you can take to be safer and healthier at college.  

Tips for College Health and Safety

Monday, October 10, 2016


Homecoming is almost here! Check out the schedule of events by clicking HERE. During Homecoming it may be difficult to get enough sleep with all the fun events, midterms,
academic advising (for more information on academic advising/registering for Spring classes click here) it is important for your student to get a good night’s sleep. Why is sleep important?  Sleep has an effect on every system of your body including your:
Mental Health and Coping Skills, Cognitive Performance and Physical Health

The SleepWell page will help to inform you of the impact sleep has on your body, answer some of your sleep questions, and allow you to interact with useful resources.
Go Saints and SleepWell so that you can enjoy all the Homecoming events!

Friday, September 30, 2016

Careers 101 - for parent of first-year students

Careers 101 – for parents of first-year students.

During their first year or so of college, students will be involved (formally or informally) in assessing their skills, interests, and abilities.  They will do this through finding success (or failure) in courses they take, involvement in campus activities, discussions with their friends and faculty, and by being exposed to and trying out different ideas and experiences.

Most students enter college with a very limited knowledge of the vast array of courses and majors available to them.  When they begin to delve into studies that are new to them, even those who entered with a plan may be drawn to different options.  This is an exciting time for students!

What you can do to help

  •           Support your child’s exploration of new areas of study and interests.  This, after all, is what education is all about.
  •         Affirm what you know to be areas of skill and ability he or she has consistently demonstrated.  Sometimes students overlook these and need to be reminded.
  •          Talk with your son or daughter about the courses and activities he or she is enjoying.  Students discover new things about themselves throughout the college experience.  Your willingness to listen and be a sounding board will keep you in the loop.
  •         Don’t panic if your child is excited about majoring in something like English, history, or art.  These can be excellent choices, particularly if they are a good match for a student’s interests and skills.
  •          Support your son or daughter’s responsible involvement in campus activities but urge this to be balanced with maintaining achievement in the classroom.
  •          Urge your child to seek assistance in Career Services.  There are various tools and assessments available to assist your son or daughter in this process of exploration.  Appointments can be made through or by phone 218-723-6085.

Adapted for The College of St. Scholastica with courtesy of the National Association of Colleges and Employers.

Thursday, September 29, 2016

St. Scholastica's Homecoming Weekend is Almost Here!

Saints families and friends are invited to join us for Homecoming Weekend 2016! Please join us on the Duluth campus for family-friendly fun and Saints spirit-filled activities. A full schedule of events and online registration are available on

Homecoming Weekend 2016:  Storm for President!
Friday, Oct. 14 - Saturday, Oct. 15

Homecoming Weekend has something for Everyone!

Events for Your Family!

Bring your little Saint to Saturday's events including the parade and science-filled fun!

Saturday, Oct. 15
11 a.m.

Family Fun!
Saturday, Oct. 15
11:30 a.m. - 2:30 p.m.
Burns Wellness Commons
For youth age 12 and under.

The Family Fun zone features activities such as:
  • faculty and student led science activities,
  • rock climbing,
  • and other fun activities.

Food and Spirit!

Join us at the Tailgate Party for food, games and a healthy dose of Blue and Gold!

Tailgate Party
Saturday, Oct. 15
11:30 a.m. - 3:30 p.m.
Mitchell Parking Lot

Music and Talent!

Saints are talented and that talent is on display during Homecoming Weekend with one longstanding tradition and one brand new offering!

SAA Student Talent Show
Friday, Oct. 14
7 p.m.
Mitchell Parking Lot

Prism Concert: CSS Music Ensemble Showcase
Saturday, Oct. 15
2 - 3 p.m.
Mitchell Auditorium

Athletic Events!

Cheer on the Saints at Homecoming volleyball and football games!

Saints Women's Volleyball vs. St. Benedict Blazers
Saturday, Oct. 15 1 p.m.
Reif Gymnasium

Saints Football vs. University of Northwestern - St. Paul
Saturday, Oct. 15
4:30 p.m.
Public Schools Stadium

Do you have questions about Homecoming that the website doesn't answer? Contact us at